There are a lot of awesome people in the world. So many who may possess traits better or worse than we may ourselves possess, but that’s ok, because we’ve decided upon each other and we’re good with that. I shall say no more and leave the rest to the post!

If my partner met and fell for someone else, I’d prefer he be upfront with me and live his life as his heart and mind dictate. My parents have been married for almost 40 years and I don’t remember a time they seemed to love each other — I learned from them that living without effort and through obligation is one of the worst things I could do to myself.

None of this has anything to do with polyamory itself of course, only that the “social support” (which is really more like “peer pressure”) allows you to avoid doing the hard work of introspection. You can choose a package off the shelf and take it home, never to examine if you actually wanted what was in it in the first place. Open the box, follow the directions, and no difficult decisions need be made that could upset the apple cart.