I have stolen one of my Facebook blog posts (the 25 random facts that seems to be going around FB town), because I thought a little bit more insight into your author, couldn’t help!
1. I don’t sleep nearly as much as I should. Even when I feel it’s time to go to sleep, I avoid it. Most of the time I’m up chatting to someone online, but often I’m just staring blankly at nothing or the screen, reloading random pages. I’m not sure why I stay awake so much, I know for my health and weight I should hit the sheets a lot sooner than I do. I guess I’ve always had this thing, the sooner I go to sleep, the sooner it becomes tomorrow; and if tomorrow involves work? I’d rather put it off as long as possible.
2. I have an irrational fear of dinosaurs. I’m not *really* scared of them, but I used to have a lot of strange dreams that involved me being chased by T-Rexes and it was enough to instill fear in me. Imagine you’re in the upstairs of a building, with no roofs to walk out onto. A raptor comes up the stairs and you have nowhere to go. ‘WHAT DO YOU DO??’
3. My most favorite thing to do in the whole world is converse. Whether I’m talking or listening, I’m fascinated by whatever you have to tell me. This is why I’m always awake, and rarely at home alone. Lots of people tell me they think their stories are boring in comparison to my “exciting adventures”, but I disagree completely. Sex and relationships are my fave topics to discuss, and I hope to do one day spend my professional days doing exactly that.
4. I don’t believe in soulmates. In the past few years I have really seen how making little changes in your life can really alter your path and I firmly believe that my path could have led me to being with someone else and not Steph. He’s just the one I chose which to me, means way more than leaving it up to chance.
5. I don’t remember a time when I wasn’t fat. As a kid of about 6, I remember sitting in the schools main hall during prayer time when these girls were commenting on me being fat. In junior high, this girl sang “Damn, I wish I was your blubber” to me. I thought that anorexia, bulimia and obsessive exercising were effective weight loss techniques in high school. I *did* lose 100 lbs, but I always felt fat and gained a lot of it back in college. A few years ago I finally separated my self image from my body image and have since started to feel better. I still want to get rid of my fat, but now it’s mainly because the clothes I want to wear just don’t work with my weird body shape. Plus, cellulite equals ick.
6. I would much rather be out doing something than just hanging out at home. It’s not that I don’t have plenty to do at home (my to do list is always huge), I just enjoy going out and hanging with friends more than anything. That’s my “me time” more than sitting around reading a book. There are lots of amazing people in my life that I enjoy seeing too much. I do, however, need to make sure that I get in a *little bit* of at home time to refresh and not be a cranky pants, but it’s rare that I need it all the time.
7. There was a while when I felt my husband was more like my brother than my best friend. It was a hard period in my life, something that I didn’t admit even to myself. Without knowing it would at the time, opening up our relationships saved us from the marital rut we had gotten into and I wouldn’t change it for anything. I don’t know if we’d still be together had it not happened.
8. I have absolutely zero interest in being pregnant. I do however want to adopt one day and then maybe have one of my own. This has been a bit of issue with Steph and I because he’s never really been sure if kids are for him, but I know they are for me, and he’s for me, so … bit of a sticking point. I’m not in any mad rush right now, but I think it’s good to look into. I hadn’t considered a foreign baby until recently when I learned about adopting children from Haiti. I don’t think I can convince Steph of this one though. While I’m not very comfortable with kids now, the idea of shaping a couple of little minds into amazing people is something that I crave and will want in under 10 years.
9. I am terrified of doing new things to my body that are out of my control. I cried like a little girl when I got my first stitch two years ago. Not at the stitch (that was laughable), just while waiting for the doctor. Getting my wisdom teeth out I basically cried at the idea of being put to sleep and told the dentist I knew what he was trying when he started telling me to imagine a warm beach. When I got my first tattoo last week, I was surprisingly a lot better than I was expecting to be, but am sad that it hurt way more than I was expecting since I have about four more that I want to have done.
10. I try not to get caught up in hype and prefer to watch or learn about things that I am genuinely interested in. It took me six years to watch Pulp Fiction. Everyone was into it and I was just so tired of hearing about the film that I forgot about it. I don’t avoid things to be different, I just want to have time to decide for myself that something is cool without believing it is just because the masses say so. I watched The Dark Knight only recently and it was good, but not as amazing as everyone was saying it was months ago.
11. If I won the lottery (if I played the lottery), I’d want to give lots of cash to the ALS society, the humane society, cancer research, and local shelters. I’ve always dreamt of buying a big apartment building, furnishing it all through an IKEA sponsorship and working with the city to make it affordable housing to homeless people. Of course, I’d spread the wealth amongst family and friends, and would also host a massive party at somewhere fancy. A black tie affair with all sorts of entertainment, and I’d want to make it an ALS fundraiser in memory of my dad. Oh, and I’d probably quit my job and write all the time.
12. I am terrible with finances. My bills get paid on time (usually), but i could care less about budget spreadsheets and watching every penny. We live within our means, and we monitor those means, so I’m happy with that. My mum taught me that I’d much rather look back on my life having enjoyed it, vs having been a stickler about everything.
13. My favorite numbers are 563 and 8000.
14. I can’t pick just one favorite color, movie, tv show or band. I am too eclectic, and have too many interests to narrow my choices down that much, except for numbers. This is why my friends vary, and I’m often doing different things. It also has a lot to do with why I enjoy dating other people.
15. I daydream more than I should. I’m all about words and stories, and can get lost in a full story with characters and plot lines. Sometimes my dreams distract me from regular life because my imagination is just way too vivid.
16. I grew up wanting to sing professionally. I went to a recording studio in Barrie once, for whatever reason and have written over 30 songs. Sadly, I can only sing a few select styles and am pretty self conscious about my skills. I said over a year ago that I would be performing on stage, within a year … but now I’m not really that interested. At all.
17. I need to be more disciplined and finish the book already. I’m so excited about it, but it seems I spend more time enjoying my open relationship than I do writing about how to do it for other people. It will happen. I WILL finish it. I have no doubt in my mind that it will get done, which is at least a positive.
18. I try to make a point of only saying things I really mean. There’s too many other things in life to talk about to waste time saying things that you don’t mean.
19. My view of being “in love” is different than it used to be. I’d say I’m “in love” with a lot of my friends, but not romantically. Just in a “I want to be around them, and learn about them and appreciate their existence” kinda way.
20. In the past few years, I’ve become quite aware of my good qualities and the things that some people find sexy about me. It doesn’t mean that I’m completely convinced of these things as I tend to know something, but believe something else when it comes to me.
21. When my dad died, it made me really sad that I didn’t feel his presence around me. I don’t believe in heaven or hell, am an atheist, but still believe in spiritual energy (I used to do a lot of weird ouija shit growing up, and often felt when places had ghostly visitors). The fact that he didn’t visit me is hard to deal with, in a strange, ghosty way.
22. My wedding day was one of the best and worst days of my life. Having my dad with me, but having him not able to give a speech because his ALS was so bad was really hard to deal with. I’m glad we got married when we did though. Having him there to walk me down the aisle really made the day.
23. I am ridiculously comfortable meeting people on the internet. I’ve been doing it since 1997, and some of my best friends have come from there. Facebook has allowed me to reconnect with some people who have now become even more near and dear to me than they were before. Some of the new friends in my life I know I wouldn’t trade for the world. The internet allows for such openness when first “meeting” people if you allow it to. I just don’t have time to meet everyone that contacts me online because I know it’s important to work on the relationships I have.
24. I don’t believe that everyone should be in an open relationship. I think that monogamy is a good option for plenty of people. I do believe, however, in freedom of choice, outside of societal standards and expectations. If a friend needed advice on how to fix an ailing relationship, my first words would never be “sleep with other people”, but there are lots of things, such as having to have an amazingly honest and open level of communication, that I think could benefit all couples.
25. I was born in England, moved to Nova Scotia, then to Parry Sound, to Oshawa, and now Toronto. I don’t ever want to live anywhere else. Toronto’s my home, to my core.
Number 26 … I find 25 facts to be too restricting, especially when browsing friends notes and seeing things I’ve forgotten, so I’m being self indulgent and throwing in 10 extras. Can you tell I like writing a lot? I mean, it IS what I want to do for a living!
- I think shrimp are maggots of the sea and I don’t drink coffee, but wish I did because I’m soooo tiiiiired.
- I had laser surgery, and it was one of the best decisions ever.
- I miss England, my daddy and my step brother daily.
- I don’t know what my biggest fear is, perhaps failure. I used to have the video boardgame with the Gatekeeper on it, and at the end it asks your biggest fear. I didn’t have one, so I picked spiders.
- I chew fabric a lot, it’s weird.
- I want to wear heels, but I weigh too much and it hurts my legs. I’m going to though.
- I know all the words to Part of Your World (Little Mermaid) and Bitches Ain’t Shit (Ben Folds cover). Steph says I like sappy music. I say I like music I can sing to, it’s just coincidentally often sap.
- I love politics but hate talking about it though I (obviously) talk too much about other things.
- I wish I could see my friends and family in England more. I am very lucky to have some people in my life I’ve known since a young age and I just wish we had more in person time together.
- Cheese sandwiches are my most favorite thing in the whole wide world.
