Comments on: Every Cowboy Sings a Sad Sad Song (Or lessons learned from group sex, while out of the room. And town) http://notyourmothersplayground.com/2009/10/every-cowboy-sings-a-sad-sad-song-or-lessons-learned-from-group-sex-while-out-of-the-room-and-town/ non-monogamy + love + sex + whatever Fri, 10 Feb 2012 19:52:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Sarah http://notyourmothersplayground.com/2009/10/every-cowboy-sings-a-sad-sad-song-or-lessons-learned-from-group-sex-while-out-of-the-room-and-town/#comment-902 Sarah Wed, 07 Jul 2010 22:38:58 +0000 http://notyourmothersplayground.com/?p=677#comment-902 Nice post! Oh the familiarity... Only just found your blog so apologies for late commenting :P But yeah, been there, done that. I think one thing that has helped me and my SO in similar situations is being able to clarify the difference between jealousy and exclusion - that lack of direct communication upon you entering that situation sets up a 'we know something you don't know' dynamic which puts you on a back foot and therefore not a great place from which to react to significant news, and as you say it becomes a two layer thing of 'it's not what you did but how you told me about it'. But taking the problem away from jealousy and the sex act and focusing it more clearly on the moment of reconnecting after an event has helped us remember to be more gentle with each other. Nice post!

Oh the familiarity… Only just found your blog so apologies for late commenting :P But yeah, been there, done that. I think one thing that has helped me and my SO in similar situations is being able to clarify the difference between jealousy and exclusion – that lack of direct communication upon you entering that situation sets up a ‘we know something you don’t know’ dynamic which puts you on a back foot and therefore not a great place from which to react to significant news, and as you say it becomes a two layer thing of ‘it’s not what you did but how you told me about it’. But taking the problem away from jealousy and the sex act and focusing it more clearly on the moment of reconnecting after an event has helped us remember to be more gentle with each other.

]]> By: samantha http://notyourmothersplayground.com/2009/10/every-cowboy-sings-a-sad-sad-song-or-lessons-learned-from-group-sex-while-out-of-the-room-and-town/#comment-700 samantha Wed, 07 Oct 2009 14:27:45 +0000 http://notyourmothersplayground.com/?p=677#comment-700 Well in fairness, this is a couple we are very close with, so it's not that big a deal. Well in fairness, this is a couple we are very close with, so it’s not that big a deal.

]]> By: Roxy and C http://notyourmothersplayground.com/2009/10/every-cowboy-sings-a-sad-sad-song-or-lessons-learned-from-group-sex-while-out-of-the-room-and-town/#comment-699 Roxy and C Wed, 07 Oct 2009 02:36:29 +0000 http://notyourmothersplayground.com/?p=677#comment-699 Wow - this highlights one of the reasons Roxy and I do EVERYTHING together. From emailing new couples to searching sites and the sex itself...we don't stray to play. For us, the risks of distrust and lack of total disclosure is too high...for us - but we are glad it works for you! Wow – this highlights one of the reasons Roxy and I do EVERYTHING together. From emailing new couples to searching sites and the sex itself…we don’t stray to play. For us, the risks of distrust and lack of total disclosure is too high…for us – but we are glad it works for you!

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