… but sometimes I think it’s a good idea to schedule things in your life that you wouldn’t normally. Like fights and sex.
After an exhausting, emotional yesterday there was no way I was opening my legs. I wasn’t interested but I knew I would be Saturday morning. There’s something about lazing around on a Saturday in bed that turns me on. Maybe it’s the fact that I don’t have to rush around and can focus on daydreams … who knows, I don’t question it.
Knowing that we had agreed to fuck in the morning made it happen. Planning for sex can make it feel like a chore, if you let it but sometimes it can be exactly what you need to get moving when you’ve been in a rut for a while.
Leaving it up to chance in a long term relationship can cause the tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow syndrome I mentioned in my last post. You feel like you always have the option to have sex so you make it easier to put off.
So why not agree to put it in the calendar. I know, it’s a little magazine advice-y of me, but hey … it can work. Sex is an important thing that most couples need, but it can easily be neglected. We can hang around thinking it’s the other persons’ turn to initiate, resenting them for not … or we can make plans together and acknowledge that it’s something that we BOTH need and enjoy.
It doesn’t have to be set in stone, but when you put each other on your to-do list it can be a lot of fun crossing it off.
