Since writing the post ‘Realizations: I Just Wanna’ Have Fun’ I’ve realized something. Where Steph has often cited cost and practicality for reasons that we don’t try new things, events, places, etc. … I’ve always – in my own mind – cited the need for sleep as a reason not to fuck.
And as much as I love getting some real sleep, especially since I often have so much trouble getting it, that’s just a dumb way to be says I.
I’d happily stay up all night with Kitty, Don or Betty, Don AND Betty as we’ve done before in the past, and then the next day be exhausted and in pain but oh boy am I happy! That should occasionally trickle over into my marriage, shouldn’t it?? Sure it won’t happen all the time and we will occasionally cite the need to sleep as a reason to wait because, well fuck … we’re married, not newlyweds, but the grand hammer of “Go to sleep, you can always fuck tomorrow.” needs to put itself back in the shed occasionally and let us go ahead and get the fuck on.
Like the other day when we didn’t get home until around 2:15 but didn’t go to sleep until 3:30. We may have been sleepy the next day but it was definitely worth it.
In conclusion; a message for Practicality. Go find another house to bore … sometimes.
I often think that a new partner is often a reason to try on a new life, new identity, new sexual persona, yet we forget or feel uncomfortable about trying those new things in our own homes.
I’m glad you’re posting again x.
Thanks babe
I’ve often felt the same. At least I’ve seen it in my own marriage, where I’ve felt Lucretia MacEvil will stay-up until 4:00 AM to fuck someone new, but won’t stay-up until 11:00 PM to fuck me. This has a lot to do with being married for so many years: the urgency to fuck is gone because you know if you don’t tonight, there will always be tomorrow night. Others are only there for tonight, or at least it may be a week or a month before you see them again.
The trick though, is to realize this happens to not ignore your primary relationship for this reason. Sure it is real life and things such as a bad day at work, or having a cold, or the kids being sick and thousands of other “real life” events happen, but you have to make time for each other, even if it’s just a quickie. It’s one of the best ways to stay connected.