This comment is in response to the Article at HuffingtonPost
As someone in a non-monogamous marriage a lot of people that I speak with expect that I’m anti-monogamy, but I’m not. I’ve seen countless numbers of these relationships thrive, without cheating for many years. What makes them strong is the same thing that makes my polyamorous marriage strong – honesty, respect and communication.
I don’t disagree that monogamy is not entirely natural, and is something that many people enter into because it seems to be the societal norm. That because other options are considered so “alternative”, that it seems to be the best route, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, as long as people are honest with their partners about their needs and desires, and with themselves.
Marriage will continue to live on, and people will continue to make poor choices with or without it around as an institution. As Jay says, to err is certainly human.
Agreed!
In my experience, the problem with most marriages in general is that very few are based on honesty, respect and communication. Many are based instead of selfishness and what their partner represents to them (money, beauty, elicits envy in friends and family, etc.) rather than on those traits that truly promote a healthy relationship.
I’ve seen this a lot in regards to comments made about Tiger’s marriage, the comment of: “Have you seen Tiger’s wife? Why would you cheat on that!?”
It’s the idea that because Elin Nordegren is beautiful, and Tiger is rich, that they should have the perfect marriage. Like that is all there is to it. It’s the high school mentality of relationships, that the most popular and best looking guy and girl in the school should be dating and should be happy because they are great looking and popular.
We all find-out at our 10th reunion how Brenda and Eddie fared after high school though, eh? Beauty and popularity was just not “enough”, was it?
10 years later we both realized that sex with others is actually ok – as long as we do it TOGETHER.
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loved the post and think everything you said was spot on.