And the lady will have …

The jury is still out on chivalry and its relation to equality, and I think always will be. The politically correct ninjas of the 90’s would like everyone to believe that men and women are equal, but I think somewhere along the line the message got a little skewed. Just like in that little book, [...]

Seven swams a swimming

NOTE: This is an absolute too much information post, so please don’t read if you can’t handle it. Really, I think this stuff is like any other fun activities. We talk about our other daily activities, life would be so much better if only sex didn’t have to be an exception.
Despite what people might think, [...]

Trainer vs. Dom

Recently while working out I realized something that I found kind of hilarious. My relationship with my personal trainer reminds me of a relationship one might have with a Dom.
Though I’m not losing my ass as fast as I’d like to be, I still notice the influence every day that life with a trainer brings. [...]

Comper … what?

I’ll admit it. Even though I’ve been in an open marriage with Steph since August of 2006, I can be a bit of a polyamory newb sometimes. It was only this past winter when having dinner with S (guy I dated last summer / fall) that he mentioned the term compersion to me, assuming that [...]

BD what? … Part 2

As if opening up your relationship isn’t sometimes intimidating enough, imagine how it feels when one partner decides to pursue outside BDSM relationships. Without proper communication to discuss the ramifications of this, things can get sticky, so I offer you some thoughts / experience / advice to take with you.
To start with, don’t judge – [...]

BD … what? Part 1

Recently I spent an afternoon with one of my old, dear friends from college. We hadn’t caught up in a while and there was lots to tell her about the life and times of lil’ old me.
While discussing all the relationships that I’d had in 2008 (see this post for details), I mentioned to her [...]