Shame! I want it gone forever!

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about two things, shame and confidence. How they affect us, shape who we are, and direct our actions. How some people are crippled by shame or a lack of confidence, while others soar either because of or in spite of them.

I’ve always had a lot of . . . → Read More: Shame! I want it gone forever!

The Everything to do with Sex Show: Mainstream’s Alright With Me

When the Everything to do With Sex Show asked me to participate in social outreach for their event on November 2-4, I can’t lie, I was hesitant. Just one week after theirs, I am pouring my heart and soul into my own sexuality conference happening November 9-11, Playground 2012. It seemed strange to be promoting . . . → Read More: The Everything to do with Sex Show: Mainstream’s Alright With Me

It’s Not You, It’s Totally Me

(Printed with permission from the subject.)

This is a real thing. As much as it’s a perfect cliché soap opera line, it really is a thing, and it sucks.

It’s been 5 and something months now and Brad and I still haven’t had sex. I know my last post about him suggested that after a . . . → Read More: It’s Not You, It’s Totally Me

Big Men Don’t Cry

It’s a tricky subject to address, the idea of male vulnerability; can I write about it in a fair and balanced way? Will I come across like a douche, no matter what I write? Who am I to write about this topic anyway, and why do I even want to?

I want to because some . . . → Read More: Big Men Don’t Cry

So … there’s this other guy

My current trifecta of new wonderful humans wouldn’t be complete without talking about Arthur. He’s actually been around for a while but it’s only been recently in the past couple of months that we’ve made it into bedroom territory.

We met on FetLife of all places. He made a complimentary comment on one of my . . . → Read More: So … there’s this other guy

On Emotional Masochism

I feel like such a lunatic for typing it out but I am pretty convinced that I get some sort of strange pleasure out of feeling small. And by small I don’t mean physically, though I wouldn’t mind losing this tummy and (some of) this ass. I’m talking more along the lines of not as . . . → Read More: On Emotional Masochism

So … there’s this girl

Continuing the theme of sharing with you stories of the people in my life, here is Bella. She’s been in my life for many months, but as I’ve mentioned before, I’ve wanted to keep everything very close to my chest for a while. I finally feel ready to share, and it feels wonderful.

Last November . . . → Read More: So … there’s this girl

So … there’s this guy

It feels like it’s been forever since I’ve written about anything to do with my life besides the sex toys I’ve been experimenting with, thanks to Ohhh Canada. I guess for the first few months of the year I wasn’t really feeling too motivated to share things. It was a bit of a private time . . . → Read More: So … there’s this guy

It Felt Like a Kiss: What Submission Means to Me

I’ve realized something about myself lately – and it’s not that I don’t mind the taste of seaweed as much as I once thought – though this is also true. It’s that my submissive side is so much more than an occasional stress reliever or playtime. It’s become what I need and what I crave . . . → Read More: It Felt Like a Kiss: What Submission Means to Me

Confession: I did not consent

Please note: This post may be triggering for some as it deals with sexual assault.

I’ve had a post floating around in my head lately that revolves around a situation I had put out of my mind; a time when a partner pushed past my limits and took advantage of my submission and because I . . . → Read More: Confession: I did not consent