Help, I Need Somebody!

Humans aren’t often very good at getting their needs met. It’s easier to let ego take over, to pretend that everything’s fine and that you’re impervious to the world around you getting you down. To admit that you need, to admit that you feel, to admit that you struggle; isn’t it just easier to say . . . → Read More: Help, I Need Somebody!

Confession: I’m a Secret Lover

You know that feeling you get when you haven’t had something that you want, something that you need, in a really, really long time, and suddenly it’s in front of you, so close that you can taste it and smell it. So close that every fibre of your being is consumed with that overwhelming need . . . → Read More: Confession: I’m a Secret Lover

Returning to Kink and Choosing to Trust Again

It’s not hard to go back to a more vanilla life. It’s not hard to have wonderful sex with your husband that still fulfills you in so many ways, even if it’s not kinky. It’s not hard to have to ask lovers to be choked, to have your hair pulled, or to be smacked around.

. . . → Read More: Returning to Kink and Choosing to Trust Again

The Samantha Script

While searching tonight for dirty photos of myself to put on my new pr0n Twitter … yes, that’s a thing … I’ve found myself getting a little lost in old emails / screenshots from exes of the past. Yes, I save this stuff. I know I probably shouldn’t; I know that my “memory” should serve . . . → Read More: The Samantha Script

Real Chat. Real Feelings.

Tonight, Steph is going on a first date. He hasn’t had a first date, or actually ANY dates, for a long time. He’s had much more practice dealing with me seeing other people than I have with him. Over the years, it’s been a struggle for me. It’s felt like he’s kept things from me . . . → Read More: Real Chat. Real Feelings.

People Are Strange, When You’re a Stranger

There are millions of us out there; people who’ve loved another but now walk the earth apart. It’s pretty standard when it comes to breaking up. Either gradually or in an instant, that person you were once so close with, no more has a place in your life.

It’s not always this way, though. There . . . → Read More: People Are Strange, When You’re a Stranger

Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose

Recently, two of our dear friends decided to make the leap from their mostly monogamous marriage into open relationship territory. Theirs is a love most evident, and I’ve always considered them to be very strong as a couple, but making the switch to non-monogamy can be a tough hill to climb. When she sent me . . . → Read More: Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose

Lessons Learned from Month One

It would be a lie if I said that the book is on schedule. I want to be finished by March, but I’d also accept April or May, so perhaps I’m not doing as badly as it feels right now. This first month of full time “booking” has not been without its challenges or distractions, . . . → Read More: Lessons Learned from Month One

Frankie Says Relax

Disclaimer: This post is not in any way meant to defend the asshole trolls on the Internet who say dickish things and perpetuate so many inappropriate ways of thinking. This post is for the little guy; for you and I. For all of us who sometimes get it wrong and have true desire to make . . . → Read More: Frankie Says Relax

Feelings and Fence Posts

The other night while Steph was having a bath, I went in to hang out with him. I ended up confessing, while squished on the floor between the toilet and the wall, that I was feeling – to steal Jessica’s word – “ways” about his relationship with the new woman he is seeing.

I wasn’t . . . → Read More: Feelings and Fence Posts