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By samantha, on December 21st, 2010%
Last week an odd thing happened. I had drinks with M; Steph’s ex. She is also the girlfriend of my ex and was the driving force behind he and I splitting up in December of 2008. Or so it seemed.
For two years we have gone our separate ways, having zero interest in staying in touch with one another as the hate levels on both sides were pretty high. I had tried my best and let go of any resentment I felt toward her for ending the relationship so suddenly but realized how strong her hatred of me was of me when there was an attempt to reconnect last year. The backstory is unnecessary but the emails that developed from it were from a very dark place, making it hard to believe that we could ever be even civil with one another.
 This too, can be buried! And then out of the blue a few weeks ago, M sends me an email. I did a double take when I saw her name in my in-box and my stomach prepared for a random attack, though my brain knew there was no reason for it. Instead of hate mail I was greeted with a lovely message where she talked about letting go of the negativity she had harbored toward me.
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By samantha, on October 26th, 2010%
ONE WEEK left to register for Non-Monogamy 101!
Lots of exciting stuff is coming down the pipeline in NYMP land and I wanted to share two upcoming workshops with you.
The first, happening on November 2nd is a return of Non-Monogamy 101. Miss it the first time around? Now you can check it out!
The second, happening on November . . . → Read More: Upcoming Fall Workshops
By samantha, on August 27th, 2010%
A few months after opening up our marriage in 2006 I started a blog. It was an anonymous blog, whose address I don’t think I even remember, that I used as a diary to share graphic details about the dates I was going on. Sex with others, while married, was new and it felt great hitting publish on a dirty post that was going out into cyberspace, as we called it back then. #old
This was back before the days of Twitter or me being on Facebook so there wasn’t really an easy way for me to inform people about this dirty diary. I told a few friends and *Harvey knew – which was really weird as I’d write about our BDSM times together, knowing he’d read it, automatically giving him insight into my thoughts. *See: Glutton for punishment.
I stopped writing in the blog after a while, even though I’d developed a small group of devoted, anonymous pervy followers. In March of 2008 I started this blog and realized immediately that I had to view posting very differently. No longer was I anonymous open marriage girl, I was Samantha Fraser and everybody knew it. If I had a bad date or sexual encounter, I couldn’t very well share it without fearing some dating drama wrath to come down on me.
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By samantha, on July 8th, 2010%
Steph just looked at me and asked “Do you think we should move the couch over? It’s covering up the vent.”
I replied: “Nah, I think it’s ok?”
He replied, in a snarky, condescending voice: “Well that’s the only vent on this floor so keeping it covered doesn’t make any sense. Right?”
To which I then replied … suddenly . . . → Read More: Do YOU want to move the couch?
By samantha, on June 22nd, 2010%
Something I’ve realized lately: I don’t want to be anyone’s escape relationship. It makes me feel icky and kinda’ sad.
In 2007 when I was dating the sous-chef, I know now that he was a total escape for me. Only 8 months into being open, Steph and I didn’t really know what we were doing – as . . . → Read More: Parachute
By samantha, on June 10th, 2010%
It’s true. Relationships ARE hard … um, yo. It doesn’t matter if you’re dating or married or long-distance, dealing with another person (or people) while trying to live one life together with different personalities can be really, really challenging. Whether you love/fuck other people or remain monogamous, the grass can often appear so much greener on any other side compared to the one you’re on.
But is it really?
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By samantha, on June 10th, 2010%
It has been a busy week and a half for Steph and I. On Sunday, May 30th we did an extra bit of filming for the documentary on modern marriage that we’re going to be in, I believe airing on CBC’s Doc Zone (next year sometime?), and last night we were interviewed for local sex show, Sex Matters.
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By samantha, on June 8th, 2010%
I always fool myself into thinking that after the last epic conversation that Steph and I have, there won’t be anymore.
And every time I do that, I’m wrong.
Last weeks’ chat was a big one, and the focus was on sharing. Not of lovers, or bathroom time, but of our thoughts; what we’re thinking at any given moment. Over the years of being open I’ve found myself drawn to people who comment on the things they observe in life. Sometimes, like Don, they have amazing powers of observation and memory retention – (though I’m sure not always in his home life!!) and make me feel on top of the world by saying something they’ve noticed, or intuitively knowing the next move. Read more »
By samantha, on March 26th, 2010%
Recently I was asked to write a guest blog post for Met Another Frog, about the myths behind men cheating.
Met Another Frog is geared to urban women and offers stories, social commentary and ‘edutainment’ about:
- dating and relationships
- love
- sex
- achieving personal satisfaction on one’s own terms
My challenge? Explain the myths behind men cheating.
Read on, and let me know what you think.
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By samantha, on February 22nd, 2010%
Yesterday, months earlier than we were expecting, Steph and I were interviewed for the documentary we were asked to be in on modern marriage, that will air on CBC’s Doc Zone hopefully sometime early next year.
 Not the usual décor for our living room! Read more »
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