Wow, what a day. I knew it was going to be a long one, teaching for 9-10 hours always is. Oh, in case you didn’t know I teach some of the video game development class at George Brown in Toronto.
Long, happy day smile
Anyway, after work I was meeting Crush at a bar by his work and then Steph was coming to meet us both. Steph hasn’t met a single guy that I’ve been dating since 2007 so holy hell I was anxious, and by single guy I mean guy that’s actually single, not the other meaning. The last two guys that I’ve dated / are dating are in relationships so we all met at the same time, so this … this was different.
I’m not even sure who was more nervous between the three of us. When I got there, Crush said he was anxious and I was completely there with him. Holy crap he looked hot too. Just had to get that in there. Suh-woon!
My brain and heart are taking a bit of a beating right now. Some good, some bad and I’m in a funny place trying to piece it all together. It shouldn’t go unsaid that I am probably pms’ing right now so my logic filter – which I pride myself on – isn’t working at full capacity. Emotions are running high in Sam Camp and there’s probably things like winter and gloominess making everything seem that much larger than it really is.
Some biggish things have happened in the past week between Crush and I so I think I might as well just start with …
What a WEIRD week. On Monday night Crush and I were chatting online, like old times of October to December. It was nice to catch up with him as busy schedules – mainly on his end – and the holidays really interrupted our getting to know one another. I had been starting to suffer from a little “Absence makes the heart grow fungus” syndrome.
Driving home from a date recently with a satisfied smile on my face, this song came on the radio and I found myself getting annoyed with the lyrics.
“Give it to me right, or don’t give it to me at all.”
It made me think about sexpectations that society puts on our guys and how it’s pretty unfair to them and their manhood. I can think of countless occasions where women I’ve known – or have overheard – have been discussing men’s bits and the things men do with them in bed, complaining through most of the conversation. Read more »
In general, I’m a big believer in following your gut but since opening up my marriage I have learned that sometimes fighting that instinct can be the better option.
Follow your gut when it comes to career moves or perhaps family politics, sure. Any area of life where your reaction to a situation is not going to be clouded with envy, jealousy or anger. Being reserved and protective is ok as long as you don’t limit your life so much that you end up missing out on amazing experiences. Then again, what you don’t experience, perhaps you won’t miss?
Recently Steph told me that he received an email from a woman from his past. Apparently she’s single now and would like to start up a sexual relationship again. The situation is pretty perfect for him, minus the fact that she lives about an hour away, as he’s much more into physical interactions than his emotional wife over here.
When he told me about it, asking how I felt about reconnecting, my gut reaction was to say no. You see, we met this woman at a friends’ birthday party. It was February 2008, and we’d been open for a year and a half. We were drunk, as per often. Steph and she were talking and he told her about our situation. At some point in the evening, I couldn’t find him and wandered upstairs to check the bathroom. Next to the bathroom was a spare room and I heard some noise, opened the door and found the two of them making out, about to have sex, or at least with some clothes off.
Now I’m all about making out in private places, this I don’t have a problem with, but there was something very “crossing the line” with this situation. Steph and I were still relative newbs to non-monogamy and I didn’t appreciate his lack of control of the situation, so I fixed it.
We all ended up having sex, by my rules. I was very controlling of the situation. “What’s that? You want his cock? Then you ask my permission first.” Yeah … that kinda’ stuff. It was a bit much, and she wasn’t really that into it, but it was the only way I knew, in my drunken state, how to handle the situation without really blowing up about the fact that they had both disrespected me and broken many rules.
After that night, they saw each other a couple of times until she got a boyfriend. I was never really comfortable with it. Her name hadn’t been mentioned for almost three years until a few weeks ago and when it was my gut screamed at me: “NO FUCKING WAY!”
Except high school kinda’ sucked when it came to boys, so let’s just say that it’s like high school maybe should have been if I wasn’t such a dumbass at the time.
It took me until I was 25 to play a classic high school game. What gives?
No really, can I? Well, it turns out I totally do. And not just on the amazingly dreamy Alex O’Loughlin from Hawaii 5.0, although he is still in the running for top daydream fodder spot in my brain by the way.
Um, hi ... have you seen this man?? Nom nom nom.
Actually, my crush is a guy I met on okC, though have not met in person yet. (Save that for next week.) It feels very strange to have a man crush again and I have been fighting with a little bit of guilt over it.
It’s easy to join a dating site and list yourself as bisexual. There’s no rule that says what that has to mean – and there shouldn’t be. You might be open to kissing girls. You might be open to dating them just as you would guys.
It’s hard for me to say if I was single if I would ever end up in a relationship with a woman. I think if I did it would have to be open because, to be honest, I love dick too much! Not that I’ve done any scientific testing on the matter at all, but I like to say I’m a 2.78 on the Kinsey Scale. I’m almost in the middle, but leaning slightly more toward the dudes. That doesn’t mean I don’t love the ladies though.
What I'd give for some alone time with Christina .....
It’s a Friday today which means date time for a lot of you this weekend and a Twitter conversation had me thinking about it so here’s some weekend, or whenever, dating advice from yours truly.
Before you take this advice you should understand my dating history and take everything with a grain of salt. Remembering though, that at the end of the day I’m happy so don’t suck on the salt for too long. Read more »
This made me laugh and perhaps if I wasn’t 51% enemy with this fella I’d give him a chance.
I find you somewhat attractive but not overbearingly. Previous experience and current state of affairs indicate that you will feel the same way about me. But still, ritual requires that we continue with a number . . . → Read More: A recent okCupid email
