An Open Letter to the Notification Fairy

Dear Notification Fairy,

I know what you’re trying to do, but I have to let you know that it’s not working. I understand that it seemed like a good idea at the time, adding the “Seen” timestamp to Facebook messages or the “Read” receipts to iMessage; thankfully Apple gives us the option to turn at . . . → Read More: An Open Letter to the Notification Fairy

People Are Strange, When You’re a Stranger

There are millions of us out there; people who’ve loved another but now walk the earth apart. It’s pretty standard when it comes to breaking up. Either gradually or in an instant, that person you were once so close with, no more has a place in your life.

It’s not always this way, though. There . . . → Read More: People Are Strange, When You’re a Stranger

Back On That Horse

It’s been a while, Internet. I remember the days when I used to talk to you all the time in this medium. This site is the reason that I became anything online (though somedays I wonder if it’s because I talk about masturbation on Twitter). People would find it when searching for info on open . . . → Read More: Back On That Horse

There are Days

There are days when I hate this non-monogamy thing. I don’t know if I’m allowed to say that, considering that now I’ve written a damn book on the subject, but I don’t care. It’s 100% true.

I hate the fact that seven years in I still struggle with Steph being with other people. As non-monogamous . . . → Read More: There are Days

On Being Amazing

At my dad’s funeral in 2004, one detail has always stuck out for me; how many people came up to me afterward to tell me what a nice service it was. In the absence of familiarity, strangers found themselves obligated to fill the silence with generic words of solace. Better than saying nothing, some would . . . → Read More: On Being Amazing

2013: Life By Design

I was a bit of an idiot in 2012. I pulled that typical end of year shit where I told myself “Don’t worry, Self, 2012 will be awesome and everything will be shiny and new. Everything that was bad will magically become great and you won’t have to do any work because that’s just how . . . → Read More: 2013: Life By Design

I Can See Clearly Now

I knew that I was going to really need our recent Mexico vacation. I had been working around the clock every day, every weekend, almost every minute, for months and I was existing in a temporary depression. What I didn’t realize however, was just exactly how transformative the time away would be for me.

It’s . . . → Read More: I Can See Clearly Now

It’s Not You, It’s Totally Me

(Printed with permission from the subject.)

This is a real thing. As much as it’s a perfect cliché soap opera line, it really is a thing, and it sucks.

It’s been 5 and something months now and Brad and I still haven’t had sex. I know my last post about him suggested that after a . . . → Read More: It’s Not You, It’s Totally Me

The Massive Brad Update or “Cockward” for Short

When I tell most people about my relationship with Brad, they’re confused. How is it possible that I’ve been dating someone for almost four months and I’ve only seen him naked – or almost naked – once? (twice now, since last night!)

It’s not my normal M.O. to wait this long. Not that I jump . . . → Read More: The Massive Brad Update or “Cockward” for Short

Confession: I did not consent

Please note: This post may be triggering for some as it deals with sexual assault.

I’ve had a post floating around in my head lately that revolves around a situation I had put out of my mind; a time when a partner pushed past my limits and took advantage of my submission and because I . . . → Read More: Confession: I did not consent