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On Being Amazing

At my dad’s funeral in 2004, one detail has always stuck out for me; how many people came up to me afterward to tell me what a nice service it was. In the absence of familiarity, strangers found themselves obligated to fill the silence with generic words of solace. Better than saying nothing, some would . . . → Read More: On Being Amazing

Guest Post: Meeting “Her”

Another guest post from my friend, Kitty. She and her husband J have recently opened up their marriage, after years of being monogamish. Her journal posts are so raw and full of both joy and slight sadness, with a side of “I GOT this.” that I always feel connected to her when I read them.

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Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose

Recently, two of our dear friends decided to make the leap from their mostly monogamous marriage into open relationship territory. Theirs is a love most evident, and I’ve always considered them to be very strong as a couple, but making the switch to non-monogamy can be a tough hill to climb. When she sent me . . . → Read More: Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose

Lessons Learned from Month One

It would be a lie if I said that the book is on schedule. I want to be finished by March, but I’d also accept April or May, so perhaps I’m not doing as badly as it feels right now. This first month of full time “booking” has not been without its challenges or distractions, . . . → Read More: Lessons Learned from Month One

Frankie Says Relax

Disclaimer: This post is not in any way meant to defend the asshole trolls on the Internet who say dickish things and perpetuate so many inappropriate ways of thinking. This post is for the little guy; for you and I. For all of us who sometimes get it wrong and have true desire to make . . . → Read More: Frankie Says Relax

A Half Full Glass of Stale Beer

Today I was called “indefatigably optimistic”. And once I finished googling wtf indefatigably meant, my brain began to fill with all the things that I do in my life to get myself through the days. It’s not that I’m a super happy go lucky person – ask anyone close to me and they’ll tell you . . . → Read More: A Half Full Glass of Stale Beer

Feelings and Fence Posts

The other night while Steph was having a bath, I went in to hang out with him. I ended up confessing, while squished on the floor between the toilet and the wall, that I was feeling – to steal Sophia’s word – “ways” about his relationship with the new woman he is seeing.

I wasn’t . . . → Read More: Feelings and Fence Posts

I Choo Choo Choose EVERYthing

If anyone was to ask me what my favourite word is, I would in an instant say “choice”. I firmly believe that choice is one of, if not the most powerful word out there and that it’s not given nearly enough recognition in our lives.

Choice can be both empowering and debilitating, which makes it . . . → Read More: I Choo Choo Choose EVERYthing

Shame! I want it gone forever!

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about two things, shame and confidence. How they affect us, shape who we are, and direct our actions. How some people are crippled by shame or a lack of confidence, while others soar either because of or in spite of them.

I’ve always had a lot of . . . → Read More: Shame! I want it gone forever!

2013: Life By Design

I was a bit of an idiot in 2012. I pulled that typical end of year shit where I told myself “Don’t worry, Self, 2012 will be awesome and everything will be shiny and new. Everything that was bad will magically become great and you won’t have to do any work because that’s just how . . . → Read More: 2013: Life By Design