Gone, But Not Forgotten

I know it probably seems a little silly. I’m about to write a blog post about my cat, Pandora, who we had to put down yesterday due to a large cancerous tumor that was slowly killing her. But this is my place on the internet to share my feels, and boy oh boy, do I . . . → Read More: Gone, But Not Forgotten

An Open Letter to the Notification Fairy

Dear Notification Fairy,

I know what you’re trying to do, but I have to let you know that it’s not working. I understand that it seemed like a good idea at the time, adding the “Seen” timestamp to Facebook messages or the “Read” receipts to iMessage; thankfully Apple gives us the option to turn at . . . → Read More: An Open Letter to the Notification Fairy

People Are Strange, When You’re a Stranger

There are millions of us out there; people who’ve loved another but now walk the earth apart. It’s pretty standard when it comes to breaking up. Either gradually or in an instant, that person you were once so close with, no more has a place in your life.

It’s not always this way, though. There . . . → Read More: People Are Strange, When You’re a Stranger

Back On That Horse

It’s been a while, Internet. I remember the days when I used to talk to you all the time in this medium. This site is the reason that I became anything online (though somedays I wonder if it’s because I talk about masturbation on Twitter). People would find it when searching for info on open . . . → Read More: Back On That Horse

“I’m a feminist who enjoys being dominated during sex. Help!” – My response

Continuing the theme of me responding to recent Globe & Mail sex questions, I’ve foolishly decided to tackle one about feminism and BDSM. While I consider myself both a feminist and a submissive woman, there are so many angles to consider when writing a kink related piece that I’m not certain I’ll be able to . . . → Read More: “I’m a feminist who enjoys being dominated during sex. Help!” – My response

Kinkless in Toronto

This time last year, things were pretty great for me. I was deep into exploring a couple of new, casual relationships that had a distinct kinky element to them that I really needed and enjoyed.

This time this year however, I have no more outlets. I’ve had to find other ways to channel my emotions . . . → Read More: Kinkless in Toronto

Managing Expectations

There’s a fine line between getting everything you want because you’ve worked hard for it, and bulldozing anything in your way on your path to success. We’re taught to have goals and dreams, and to never let anyone stand in our way of reaching them, but the reality is that just because you want something . . . → Read More: Managing Expectations

On Being Amazing

At my dad’s funeral in 2004, one detail has always stuck out for me; how many people came up to me afterward to tell me what a nice service it was. In the absence of familiarity, strangers found themselves obligated to fill the silence with generic words of solace. Better than saying nothing, some would . . . → Read More: On Being Amazing

Guest Post: Meeting “Her”

Another guest post from my friend, Kitty. She and her husband J have recently opened up their marriage, after years of being monogamish. Her journal posts are so raw and full of both joy and slight sadness, with a side of “I GOT this.” that I always feel connected to her when I read them.

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Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose

Recently, two of our dear friends decided to make the leap from their mostly monogamous marriage into open relationship territory. Theirs is a love most evident, and I’ve always considered them to be very strong as a couple, but making the switch to non-monogamy can be a tough hill to climb. When she sent me . . . → Read More: Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose