Pleasure, Penetration, & the Patriarchy

I remember the first time I felt the clich√© heteronormative disparity after sex. I was 17 or 18, in sort of upstate New York, visiting my then (first) boyfriend in the house he shared with his NFL loving roommates. As I sat on the toilet, trying to expel the hell out of his cum making . . . → Read More: Pleasure, Penetration, & the Patriarchy

An Open Letter: Happy Tenth Wedding Anniversary

September 24, 2004, Steph and I tied the knot. We decided to get married not for the normal reasons you’ve probably come to expect, but mostly because my dad was sick and I wanted him to walk me down the aisle before he died. We loved each other, so it seemed like a good idea . . . → Read More: An Open Letter: Happy Tenth Wedding Anniversary

The Samantha Script

While searching tonight for dirty photos of myself to put on my new pr0n Twitter … yes, that’s a thing … I’ve found myself getting a little lost in old emails / screenshots from exes of the past. Yes, I save this stuff. I know I probably shouldn’t; I know that my “memory” should serve . . . → Read More: The Samantha Script

On Toenails and Sandwiches

I realized something today while cutting my toenails. (Not my normal place for epiphanies, but I’ll take it.) For a little context, I don’t really bother much with my feet. I wear flip flops all summer and into as much of fall as possible. I paint my toes maybe every few months, and sometimes just . . . → Read More: On Toenails and Sandwiches

9 Years & Counting

Normally I don’t pay much attention to our wedding anniversary. Out of the three that we celebrate – yes, we are those¬†people – it doesn’t compare to how we feel about the time we first met, or the day we decided to open up our relationship. Sure we got married because we wanted to, but . . . → Read More: 9 Years & Counting

Guest Post: Meeting “Her”

Another guest post from my friend, Kitty. She and her husband J have recently opened up their marriage, after years of being monogamish. Her journal posts are so raw and full of both joy and slight sadness, with a side of “I GOT this.” that I always feel connected to her when I read them.

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Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose

Recently, two of our dear friends decided to make the leap from their mostly monogamous marriage into open relationship territory. Theirs is a love most evident, and I’ve always considered them to be very strong as a couple, but making the switch to non-monogamy can be a tough hill to climb. When she sent me . . . → Read More: Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose

Sex Without Borders: Public Response

Every time I agree to a new very public appearance about my personal life I have to question my sanity. With the recent Toronto Life article in their February 2013 sex issue, I’m re-evaluating my position on a few things related to my now – even more public – persona.

I am sort of . . . → Read More: Sex Without Borders: Public Response

Feelings and Fence Posts

The other night while Steph was having a bath, I went in to hang out with him. I ended up confessing, while squished on the floor between the toilet and the wall, that I was feeling – to steal Jessica’s word – “ways” about his relationship with the new woman he is seeing.

I wasn’t . . . → Read More: Feelings and Fence Posts

I Choo Choo Choose EVERYthing

If anyone was to ask me what my favourite word is, I would in an instant say “choice”. I firmly believe that choice is one of, if not the most powerful word out there and that it’s not given nearly enough recognition in our lives.

Choice can be both empowering and debilitating, which makes it . . . → Read More: I Choo Choo Choose EVERYthing