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Ohai Stake Burners …

I was interviewed recently by Sexy Typewriter about my open relationship. Or so I thought. If you’re reading this and you’re not a Facebook or Twitter friendly, it’s highly likely that you linked to me from the Toronto Sun’s website. Or the Edmonton Sun … or one of the many Suns across Canada (apparently what they . . . → Read More: Ohai Stake Burners …

I Ain’t No Poster Child

When I first started this blog I never wanted to be a poster child for non-monogamy. Sure, I’ve enjoyed what limited “fame” I’ve achieved (if you can call it that), but I don’t aspire to be the go to person when the media needs someone to talk to. That being said, I’m always happy to share . . . → Read More: I Ain’t No Poster Child

On Rob Ford and Fat Shaming. An Easy Joke or a Symptom of Something More?

A simple Facebook status conversation has inspired me to write this post because my brain is now buzzing with thoughts on how the media talks about fat people.

It was innocent enough. An article in the Toronto Star – known obviously as being the mortal media enemy of Toronto mayor Rob Ford – talking about his recent . . . → Read More: On Rob Ford and Fat Shaming. An Easy Joke or a Symptom of Something More?

Guest Post: Sex Negativity & Skyrim

Recently a conversation with my friend, Bobby Arthur, about video games, specifically Skyrim, and slut-shaming caused me to request he write a full guest post for you, here. Below is that post which I am excited to share on NYMP. I hope it causes you to take pause and think about the influence of media when it comes to female sexuality.

Odds are there is someone in your life who is spending their evenings slaying Dragons and amassing treasure in the most played game of 2011, Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim. Skyrim is an open world role playing game (RPG) created by Bethesda Softworks and is set in a fictional, mostly medieval, swords and sorcery land called, Tamriel. It is a game where I expected to be killing and looting, but never expected to be slut-shaming. Read more »

Why Playground? Why Now?

When I first had the idea for Playground around the end of last summer, I had a lot more time on my hands. I had quit my job a few months prior to finish working on my non-monogamy guide book – which I promise to finish sooooon – and had seemingly all the time in the . . . → Read More: Why Playground? Why Now?

Met Another Frog – Interview

Recently Skye Blue from MetAnotherFrog.com interviewed me via Skype on non-monogamy and other things. I’m pretty proud of the very long two part interview so I hope you’ll check it out by visiting . . . → Read More: Met Another Frog – Interview

All-inclusive: Not just for margaritas

I really like the concept of ‘community’ in theory. I know there are countless people out there who have felt lost, alone, strange, weird, etc. until they stumbled upon a group of like-minded souls. Kindred spirits who would embrace them into their circle with open arms. “You no longer have to feel alone”, they might say to one another.

For many, the fight against oppression, prejudice, sexism, suffering and homophobia gives the individual an extra sense of “home” plus instant allies in the war against ignorance. These alliances are valuable and certainly something to hold dear.

Communities pop up for many reasons and in the sexuality sphere one exists for pretty much everything. If you can think it, a group has formed around it somewhere. For those with specific interests like kink for example, it makes sense that a movement is created around events, similar fetishes and social interaction. People of like minds come together to share life experiences in a safe, hopefully non judgmental environment. It’s human nature to want this. Read more »

Who is SexyKitty69?

Exploring the pros & cons of anonymity

I am very proud of the panel I’ve put together for Aprils’ Momentum conference. Faced with the challenge of running a very personal blog that features both helpful pieces and my own dating stories, anonymity is something that I deal with on a regular basis.

Who is she?

A few years ago I had a LiveJournal account and would use it to blog about my dates in (very) graphic detail. I was beginning to learn that the keyboard craved my touch more than the paper and loved being able to share sexy details with my audience. But what I was lacking was connection. I felt no more connected to my readers than they likely did with me. If I was going to share a story with them, not showing my face took away a lot of the enjoyment for me. Finally a friend convinced me to start this blog in March of 2008 and I went from anonymous sex blogger to the girl that you know today.

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F*ck yeah, Thursday!

Wow, what a day. I knew it was going to be a long one, teaching for 9-10 hours always is. Oh, in case you didn’t know I teach some of the video game development class at George Brown in Toronto.

Long, happy day smile

Anyway, after work I was meeting Crush at a bar by his work and then Steph was coming to meet us both. Steph hasn’t met a single guy that I’ve been dating since 2007 so holy hell I was anxious, and by single guy I mean guy that’s actually single, not the other meaning. The last two guys that I’ve dated / are dating are in relationships so we all met at the same time, so this … this was different.

I’m not even sure who was more nervous between the three of us. When I got there, Crush said he was anxious and I was completely there with him. Holy crap he looked hot too. Just had to get that in there. Suh-woon!

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Sex Matters tonight

Tonight Steph and I are going to be appearing again on SexMatters TV with Cynthia Loyst. I hope you tune in, even though I’m terrified because it’s live tv!

We’ll be discussing our relationship, non-monogamy in general as well as some tips for you and yours!

Apparently it’s also a call in show so you can call in . . . → Read More: Sex Matters tonight