Confession: I’m a Secret Lover

You know that feeling you get when you haven’t had something that you want, something that you need, in a really, really long time, and suddenly it’s in front of you, so close that you can taste it and smell it. So close that every fibre of your being is consumed with that overwhelming need . . . → Read More: Confession: I’m a Secret Lover

Monogamy Isn’t Broken, But We Are

Sometimes I imagine what non-monogamy looks like to an outsider, though I can’t really remember what I used to think when I was one myself. I suspect that polyamory, or whatever form of non-monogamy someone is living, looks chaotic to the outside eye. When held up against the pristine perfection that is supposed to be . . . → Read More: Monogamy Isn’t Broken, But We Are

Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose

Recently, two of our dear friends decided to make the leap from their mostly monogamous marriage into open relationship territory. Theirs is a love most evident, and I’ve always considered them to be very strong as a couple, but making the switch to non-monogamy can be a tough hill to climb. When she sent me . . . → Read More: Guest Post: Embracing My Inner Goose

Lessons Learned from Month One

It would be a lie if I said that the book is on schedule. I want to be finished by March, but I’d also accept April or May, so perhaps I’m not doing as badly as it feels right now. This first month of full time “booking” has not been without its challenges or distractions, . . . → Read More: Lessons Learned from Month One

Sex Without Borders: Public Response

Every time I agree to a new very public appearance about my personal life I have to question my sanity. With the recent Toronto Life article in their February 2013 sex issue, I’m re-evaluating my position on a few things related to my now – even more public – persona.

I am sort of . . . → Read More: Sex Without Borders: Public Response

I Choo Choo Choose EVERYthing

If anyone was to ask me what my favourite word is, I would in an instant say “choice”. I firmly believe that choice is one of, if not the most powerful word out there and that it’s not given nearly enough recognition in our lives.

Choice can be both empowering and debilitating, which makes it . . . → Read More: I Choo Choo Choose EVERYthing

The Everything to do with Sex Show: Mainstream’s Alright With Me

When the Everything to do With Sex Show asked me to participate in social outreach for their event on November 2-4, I can’t lie, I was hesitant. Just one week after theirs, I am pouring my heart and soul into my own sexuality conference happening November 9-11, Playground 2012. It seemed strange to be promoting . . . → Read More: The Everything to do with Sex Show: Mainstream’s Alright With Me

Ohai Stake Burners …

I was interviewed recently by Sexy Typewriter about my open relationship. Or so I thought. If you’re reading this and you’re not a Facebook or Twitter friendly, it’s highly likely that you linked to me from the Toronto Sun’s website. Or the Edmonton Sun … or one of the many Suns across Canada (apparently what . . . → Read More: Ohai Stake Burners …

Why Playground? Why Now?

When I first had the idea for Playground around the end of last summer, I had a lot more time on my hands. I had quit my job a few months prior to finish working on my non-monogamy guide book – which I promise to finish sooooon – and had seemingly all the time . . . → Read More: Why Playground? Why Now?

One ring to rule me

My wedding ring and I have a strange relationship. When I’m at home, I often pay it no attention, abandoning it on a random shelf as soon as I walk in the door. It never sleeps with me or sees me naked. I won’t let it eat at the dinner table and it certainly . . . → Read More: One ring to rule me