Recently Skye Blue from MetAnotherFrog.com interviewed me via Skype on non-monogamy and other things. I’m pretty proud of the very long two part interview so I hope you’ll check it out by visiting . . . → Read More: Met Another Frog – Interview
     
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My wedding ring and I have a strange relationship. When I’m at home, I often pay it no attention, abandoning it on a random shelf as soon as I walk in the door. It never sleeps with me or sees me naked. I won’t let it eat at the dinner table and it certainly never gets to hang out during sex. However when it’s time to leave the house and go out in public, I am absolutely lost without it. On those days where I cannot remember which one of five random shelves has been graced with my white-gold, sad excuse for bling band, I find myself sometimes hiding my ring finger when surrounded by strangers, lest someone see me as not married or worse … with a wedding ring tan line (a sure sign of cheating, some would say). For whatever reason, there’s been a lot of chat lately between friends, strangers and I about my relationship with my husband and I’ve been doing some thinking about things I’ve known for years. Questions that I’ve been asked have caused me to reflect on where we are now. I’ve been thinking about he and I, and he . . . → Read More: Gooooooo Team! Unlike riding a bike, dating for me, is quite … unlike riding a bike. It’s not something I can just pick up again because there are so many factors like state of being, state of relationships and state of confidence that come into play each time. However, I’ve come to the conclusion that maybe I should start at least consider dating again; men that is. I am really missing having another man in my life. As much as I lust and love after my husband, I cannot deny that other men bring a new emotional and / or sexual energy to my being that I haven’t connected with in a long time. To be honest though, I am pretty sure that the idea of dating again completely terrifies me. I don’t remember how to flirt with someone new and I’m pretty convinced that I don’t think I can be bothered with the whole “getting to know you” stage … again. Read more » I really like the concept of ‘community’ in theory. I know there are countless people out there who have felt lost, alone, strange, weird, etc. until they stumbled upon a group of like-minded souls. Kindred spirits who would embrace them into their circle with open arms. “You no longer have to feel alone”, they might say to one another. For many, the fight against oppression, prejudice, sexism, suffering and homophobia gives the individual an extra sense of “home” plus instant allies in the war against ignorance. These alliances are valuable and certainly something to hold dear. Communities pop up for many reasons and in the sexuality sphere one exists for pretty much everything. If you can think it, a group has formed around it somewhere. For those with specific interests like kink for example, it makes sense that a movement is created around events, similar fetishes and social interaction. People of like minds come together to share life experiences in a safe, hopefully non judgmental environment. It’s human nature to want this. Read more » I am so pleased that Sexie Sadie asked me to help her on her virtual book tour. A few years ago, I discovered Sadie’s blog, Confessions From My Open Marriage, and was instantly intrigued with her stories and honesty. While we have always dealt with our own unique situations, I’ve felt a level of kindred spiritness . . . → Read More: Open All The Way Lately I’ve become involved in more relationships happening at once than I’ve ever been used to. There are more people on the scene than my brain can sometimes process and it’s all a little … complicated. Putting all of the logistics, heavy chats, fears and overwhelming-y-ness aside for a second, one of the awesome things that I’m gaining from two boyfriends, some lovely ladies and a few connection lines back and forth is clear and defined perspective.  Perspective. It's a beautiful thing. I haven’t written a tips post in a while – which makes sense because that’s kind of the point of the entire book that I’m writing – but after our appearance on SexMatters TV last night, where this came up, I decided to share with you some tips if you are planning on trying out non-monogamy as a couple. I wish someone had shared this stuff with me back in the day! It might seem silly to bring these things up but in the beginning, when everything is new territory, it is harder to know what boundaries you might need so I’m giving you some examples from my experience. As you grow in your relationship, so will your levels of comfort. My brain and heart are taking a bit of a beating right now. Some good, some bad and I’m in a funny place trying to piece it all together. It shouldn’t go unsaid that I am probably pms’ing right now so my logic filter – which I pride myself on – isn’t working at full capacity. Emotions are running high in Sam Camp and there’s probably things like winter and gloominess making everything seem that much larger than it really is. Some biggish things have happened in the past week between Crush and I so I think I might as well just start with … Tuesday What a WEIRD week. On Monday night Crush and I were chatting online, like old times of October to December. It was nice to catch up with him as busy schedules – mainly on his end – and the holidays really interrupted our getting to know one another. I had been starting to suffer from a little “Absence makes the heart grow fungus” syndrome.
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