Opinion Evolution: A(nother) 50 Shades Thinkpiece

Over the past couple of weeks we have all been inundated with a zillion op-eds on 50 Shades, from reasons why you should boycott the film to reasons why it’s oh-so-harmless. I’ve read some brilliant pieces from every angle, and it’s been fascinating to watch the conversation surrounding Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele become . . . → Read More: Opinion Evolution: A(nother) 50 Shades Thinkpiece

Finding My New Place In The Crowd

It doesn’t feel like that long ago that Steph and I were considered the strange misfits among everyone we knew for being non-monogamous, but on the other hand, yeah ok, it sort of does. If 2014 still has us living in a society where we have so many backwards thinkers wandering around wreaking havoc, then 2006, when we . . . → Read More: Finding My New Place In The Crowd

Confession: I’m a Secret Lover

You know that feeling you get when you haven’t had something that you want, something that you need, in a really, really long time, and suddenly it’s in front of you, so close that you can taste it and smell it. So close that every fibre of your being is consumed with that overwhelming need . . . → Read More: Confession: I’m a Secret Lover

I Have An Addiction

I have a confession to make that seems quite timely this close to Valentine’s Day; I’m addicted to romance.

I’m not talking about red roses and cheap boxes of drugstore chocolates, or last minute gas-station cards filled with recycled sentiments and the stale smell of dust and car grease. I mean the romance that breaks . . . → Read More: I Have An Addiction

Monogamy Isn’t Broken, But We Are

Sometimes I imagine what non-monogamy looks like to an outsider, though I can’t really remember what I used to think when I was one myself. I suspect that polyamory, or whatever form of non-monogamy someone is living, looks chaotic to the outside eye. When held up against the pristine perfection that is supposed to be . . . → Read More: Monogamy Isn’t Broken, But We Are

On Toenails and Sandwiches

I realized something today while cutting my toenails. (Not my normal place for epiphanies, but I’ll take it.) For a little context, I don’t really bother much with my feet. I wear flip flops all summer and into as much of fall as possible. I paint my toes maybe every few months, and sometimes just . . . → Read More: On Toenails and Sandwiches

People Are Strange, When You’re a Stranger

There are millions of us out there; people who’ve loved another but now walk the earth apart. It’s pretty standard when it comes to breaking up. Either gradually or in an instant, that person you were once so close with, no more has a place in your life.

It’s not always this way, though. There . . . → Read More: People Are Strange, When You’re a Stranger

“I’m a feminist who enjoys being dominated during sex. Help!” – My response

Continuing the theme of me responding to recent Globe & Mail sex questions, I’ve foolishly decided to tackle one about feminism and BDSM. While I consider myself both a feminist and a submissive woman, there are so many angles to consider when writing a kink related piece that I’m not certain I’ll be able to . . . → Read More: “I’m a feminist who enjoys being dominated during sex. Help!” – My response

Kinkless in Toronto

This time last year, things were pretty great for me. I was deep into exploring a couple of new, casual relationships that had a distinct kinky element to them that I really needed and enjoyed.

This time this year however, I have no more outlets. I’ve had to find other ways to channel my emotions . . . → Read More: Kinkless in Toronto

Sex Without Borders: Public Response

Every time I agree to a new very public appearance about my personal life I have to question my sanity. With the recent Toronto Life article in their February 2013 sex issue, I’m re-evaluating my position on a few things related to my now – even more public – persona.

I am sort of . . . → Read More: Sex Without Borders: Public Response