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Something I’ve realized lately: I don’t want to be anyone’s escape relationship. It makes me feel icky and kinda’ sad. In 2007 when I was dating the sous-chef, I know now that he was a total escape for me. Only 8 months into being open, Steph and I didn’t really know what we were doing – as . . . → Read More: Parachute It’s true. Relationships ARE hard … um, yo. It doesn’t matter if you’re dating or married or long-distance, dealing with another person (or people) while trying to live one life together with different personalities can be really, really challenging. Whether you love/fuck other people or remain monogamous, the grass can often appear so much greener on any other side compared to the one you’re on. But is it really?
It has been a busy week and a half for Steph and I. On Sunday, May 30th we did an extra bit of filming for the documentary on modern marriage that we’re going to be in, I believe airing on CBC’s Doc Zone (next year sometime?), and last night we were interviewed for local sex show, Sex Matters.
I always fool myself into thinking that after the last epic conversation that Steph and I have, there won’t be anymore. And every time I do that, I’m wrong. Last weeks’ chat was a big one, and the focus was on sharing. Not of lovers, or bathroom time, but of our thoughts; what we’re thinking at any given moment. Over the years of being open I’ve found myself drawn to people who comment on the things they observe in life. Sometimes, like Don, they have amazing powers of observation and memory retention – (though I’m sure not always in his home life!!) and make me feel on top of the world by saying something they’ve noticed, or intuitively knowing the next move. Read more » Yes, that’s soon what I will be saying as June 2nd is my last official day at Interactive Ontario. 8 months ago I would have been over the moon to be leaving, regardless of having any other plans, but now this departure is bitter sweet. The organization has improved, and I have realized where my talents . . . → Read More: I’m Not Unemployed … I’m a "Writer"
It’s been a while since I turned the mirror on myself for a little self-examination and I think I’m overdue so here goes. Most of you already know. I’ve been in an open marriage for 3.5 years and it probably saved my relationship, or at the very least saved from a life of denying that I was unhappy when it truth I must have been when I think of how ridiculously happy I am now. (I mean it only makes sense!) Read more » It’s been an interesting, yet kind of fucked up, past month in my brain. Around the beginning of March Don and I got into a fight. The reason for the fight was kind of unrelated (translation: I’m not discussing it) to what ended up being my takeaway. In the over a year since we’ve known each other, we’d talk often about making a date and I’d leave my schedule open or even cancel plans with people, only to find out that he wasn’t really making an effort as much as he’d say he wanted to. Not that I blame him; it’s not like navigating open relationships is the easiest thing to do! As it’s a bit difficult for me to completely understand what being single and poly is like, (only ever experiencing a variation of it when dating someone in a relationship), I was lucky to find out that Ruby had just written a great essay about her experiences between both polyamorous and single. Her perspective is fantastic, acknowledging both the good and the bad sides of what this interesting dynamic can bring. Enjoy! Poly and Single If I had to stick a couple of labels on myself, they would include the following: mother, friend, daughter, writer, lover, volunteer, eccentric, etc. They would also include a combination of two words that seem to confuse the Hell out of the general population when put together side by side: ‘poly’ & ‘single’. As a special treat, I’ve decided to share with you a condensed version of a chapter out of my book, Not Your Mothers’ Playground, that I’m hoping on finishing in the next few months. I’ve been meaning to write a post about coming out poly for a while now, and when I realized I’d already written it, I thought it seemed the best time to share with you. I hope you enjoy this sample condensed chapter of the book. If you want to get on the mailing list to stay up to date on when the book is released so that you can read the entire thing, please message me at notyourmothersplayground@gmail.com. Hey work colleagues and family! This post is probably TMI for you. Don’t say I didn’t warn you!Recently I went to local sex store, Come As You Are for the Advanced Anal Pleasure workshop with Tristan Taormino, sex educator, adult filmmaker and bestselling author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.
 The lovely Tristan Taormino & I
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