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Big cat says "Me-ow" I wasted a lot of energy in 2011 on other people. Any of it that wasn’t going to my job went to other people, with a teensy tiny bit of leftovers coming to me. (And of course, I always have a permanent chunk for my lovely husband. That doesn’t change.) I lay . . . → Read More: Becoming the Hunted I was interviewed recently by Sexy Typewriter about my open relationship. Or so I thought. If you’re reading this and you’re not a Facebook or Twitter friendly, it’s highly likely that you linked to me from the Toronto Sun’s website. Or the Edmonton Sun … or one of the many Suns across Canada (apparently what they . . . → Read More: Ohai Stake Burners … When I first started this blog I never wanted to be a poster child for non-monogamy. Sure, I’ve enjoyed what limited “fame” I’ve achieved (if you can call it that), but I don’t aspire to be the go to person when the media needs someone to talk to. That being said, I’m always happy to share . . . → Read More: I Ain’t No Poster Child When I first had the idea for Playground around the end of last summer, I had a lot more time on my hands. I had quit my job a few months prior to finish working on my non-monogamy guide book – which I promise to finish sooooon – and had seemingly all the time in the . . . → Read More: Why Playground? Why Now? Recently Skye Blue from MetAnotherFrog.com interviewed me via Skype on non-monogamy and other things. I’m pretty proud of the very long two part interview so I hope you’ll check it out by visiting . . . → Read More: Met Another Frog – Interview I really like the concept of ‘community’ in theory. I know there are countless people out there who have felt lost, alone, strange, weird, etc. until they stumbled upon a group of like-minded souls. Kindred spirits who would embrace them into their circle with open arms. “You no longer have to feel alone”, they might say to one another. For many, the fight against oppression, prejudice, sexism, suffering and homophobia gives the individual an extra sense of “home” plus instant allies in the war against ignorance. These alliances are valuable and certainly something to hold dear. Communities pop up for many reasons and in the sexuality sphere one exists for pretty much everything. If you can think it, a group has formed around it somewhere. For those with specific interests like kink for example, it makes sense that a movement is created around events, similar fetishes and social interaction. People of like minds come together to share life experiences in a safe, hopefully non judgmental environment. It’s human nature to want this. Read more » I am so pleased that Sexie Sadie asked me to help her on her virtual book tour. A few years ago, I discovered Sadie’s blog, Confessions From My Open Marriage, and was instantly intrigued with her stories and honesty. While we have always dealt with our own unique situations, I’ve felt a level of kindred spiritness . . . → Read More: Open All The Way Lately I’ve become involved in more relationships happening at once than I’ve ever been used to. There are more people on the scene than my brain can sometimes process and it’s all a little … complicated. Putting all of the logistics, heavy chats, fears and overwhelming-y-ness aside for a second, one of the awesome things that I’m gaining from two boyfriends, some lovely ladies and a few connection lines back and forth is clear and defined perspective.  Perspective. It's a beautiful thing. I haven’t written a tips post in a while – which makes sense because that’s kind of the point of the entire book that I’m writing – but after our appearance on SexMatters TV last night, where this came up, I decided to share with you some tips if you are planning on trying out non-monogamy as a couple. I wish someone had shared this stuff with me back in the day! It might seem silly to bring these things up but in the beginning, when everything is new territory, it is harder to know what boundaries you might need so I’m giving you some examples from my experience. As you grow in your relationship, so will your levels of comfort. My brain and heart are taking a bit of a beating right now. Some good, some bad and I’m in a funny place trying to piece it all together. It shouldn’t go unsaid that I am probably pms’ing right now so my logic filter – which I pride myself on – isn’t working at full capacity. Emotions are running high in Sam Camp and there’s probably things like winter and gloominess making everything seem that much larger than it really is. Some biggish things have happened in the past week between Crush and I so I think I might as well just start with … Tuesday |
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