I was interviewed recently by Sexy Typewriter about my open relationship. Or so I thought. If you’re reading this and you’re not a Facebook or Twitter friendly, it’s highly likely that you linked to me from the Toronto Sun’s website. Or the Edmonton Sun … or one of the many Suns across Canada (apparently what they . . . → Read More: Ohai Stake Burners …
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I posted this first in 2010, but hey, it’s the holidays! Why not share it again now! Now that you’ve read all about Oral Sex For Dudes, it’s time to get to the ladies. I cannot deny that this post will be slightly biased by my own vagina but I have spoken to enough gals, and been with enough, to have a good handle on what makes lady bits tick and what makes them yawn. Let’s get to it!
As you can tell from the handy graphic I found (stole) from the above site in a Google image search, women’s bits are all very unique and as a result all require different styles of loving to get off, but here are some general guidelines. There are, of course, always exceptions to these “rules”.
I posted this first in 2010, but hey, it’s the holidays! Why not share it again now! In the spirit of the season it’s time for me to share with you my oral sex gift giving tips for dudes. So many people go without good head, settling instead for mediocre loving or none at all and it’s a shame. There is a saying that oral sex is like pizza; even when it’s bad it’s still good but let’s be honest. For anyone that has ever eaten a gourmet pizza you really cannot compare it to a microwaveable pile of goo, that’s done in less than two minutes. Pun implied and intended. So without further ado, let’s get to the genitals, shall we?
Hey Cock-sucker! Now I consider this a term of endearment but you might not. There are plenty of people that refuse to suck their partner’s cock for whatever reason. (It’s weird looking, it smells, he never takes out the trash, etc.) To start with, *most* penises are beautiful once you get past the alien appendage fear that some of us have. If they smell, well some people have lovely natural musks that is simply a part of sex and others might need encouragement to hop in the shower. Finally if you’re not giving head because he’s not doing his chores, did you ever think that maybe he’s not doing his chores because you’re not giving him head? It takes two to tango. Withholding sex is not healthy for anybody. We should never treat our sexuality as a commodity. This is Part Two to this story. If you haven’t read that one, this likely will not make much sense. So please read it first! When the doorbell rang, I could feel myself getting anxious. I was about to let somebody else into this very personal space that has belonged to Harvey and I for years. I was excited to be able to show someone else just how good I can be for him, as well as to give him the threesome that he’s never had. As our guest is a friend of mine, it wasn’t too difficult to be able to relax and enjoy a glass of wine while he cooked dinner. There was something very calming about the two of us sitting there, watching as he prepared a meal. I was at once highly on edge and completely chilled. I could still feel the wetness between my legs from my alone time with him and wondered if I would feel ashamed that there was someone else in the room now. I didn’t. I love this little product. It’s absolutely perfect for a safe slut on the go, which makes it even more perfect as a safe slut stocking stuffer this Holiday season. Tee hee, I said “stuff”. I’m talking about the Just In Case: Condom Compact, available now at Ohhh Canada for only $12.99. It’s a great way to . . . → Read More: Product Review: Condom Compact 
So today, I’m happy to review the Lelo Liv, a wonderful rechargeable vibrator that comes in colours cerise or lime. Sounds sort of like popsicle flavours, doesn’t it … I believe pretty strongly that every man and woman deserves to be presented with the opportunity for group sex. It might not be their thing and it’s ok to say no, but with only one life to live on this earth, why do so many spend theirs not working harder on their bucket lists? I suppose for some, it’s a matter of circumstance. Which is why I’ve been hoping for years to be able to offer Harvey a threesome. People in my life that are nice should have nice things. And what’s nicer than two gals willing to do what you say, all nekkid and stuff? So I kept it in the back of my mind for years. Relationships with others came and went; Harvey was always around. While our level of interaction has changed over the years, the idea was never shelved. Though I don’t think he really expected it would happen; and who can blame him considering we’ve known each other for 4.5 years already, sans group sex. Read more » When I first had the idea for Playground around the end of last summer, I had a lot more time on my hands. I had quit my job a few months prior to finish working on my non-monogamy guide book – which I promise to finish sooooon – and had seemingly all the time in the . . . → Read More: Why Playground? Why Now? We hear and see sex everywhere but even with all of the information out there, how many people are truly enjoying happy, healthy sex lives? In this workshop, educator, author and organizer of Playground, Samantha Fraser will engage participants in a dialogue to help them bridge the gaps between sex and sexuality. Attendees . . . → Read More: Upcoming workshop: Sex In The City I really like the concept of ‘community’ in theory. I know there are countless people out there who have felt lost, alone, strange, weird, etc. until they stumbled upon a group of like-minded souls. Kindred spirits who would embrace them into their circle with open arms. “You no longer have to feel alone”, they might say to one another. For many, the fight against oppression, prejudice, sexism, suffering and homophobia gives the individual an extra sense of “home” plus instant allies in the war against ignorance. These alliances are valuable and certainly something to hold dear. Communities pop up for many reasons and in the sexuality sphere one exists for pretty much everything. If you can think it, a group has formed around it somewhere. For those with specific interests like kink for example, it makes sense that a movement is created around events, similar fetishes and social interaction. People of like minds come together to share life experiences in a safe, hopefully non judgmental environment. It’s human nature to want this. Read more » |
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