When I first had the idea for Playground around the end of last summer, I had a lot more time on my hands. I had quit my job a few months prior to finish working on my non-monogamy guide book – which I promise to finish sooooon – and had seemingly all the time in the . . . → Read More: Why Playground? Why Now?
     
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We hear and see sex everywhere but even with all of the information out there, how many people are truly enjoying happy, healthy sex lives? In this workshop, educator, author and organizer of Playground, Samantha Fraser will engage participants in a dialogue to help them bridge the gaps between sex and sexuality. Attendees . . . → Read More: Upcoming workshop: Sex In The City I really like the concept of ‘community’ in theory. I know there are countless people out there who have felt lost, alone, strange, weird, etc. until they stumbled upon a group of like-minded souls. Kindred spirits who would embrace them into their circle with open arms. “You no longer have to feel alone”, they might say to one another. For many, the fight against oppression, prejudice, sexism, suffering and homophobia gives the individual an extra sense of “home” plus instant allies in the war against ignorance. These alliances are valuable and certainly something to hold dear. Communities pop up for many reasons and in the sexuality sphere one exists for pretty much everything. If you can think it, a group has formed around it somewhere. For those with specific interests like kink for example, it makes sense that a movement is created around events, similar fetishes and social interaction. People of like minds come together to share life experiences in a safe, hopefully non judgmental environment. It’s human nature to want this. Read more » I am so pleased that Sexie Sadie asked me to help her on her virtual book tour. A few years ago, I discovered Sadie’s blog, Confessions From My Open Marriage, and was instantly intrigued with her stories and honesty. While we have always dealt with our own unique situations, I’ve felt a level of kindred spiritness . . . → Read More: Open All The Way “I don’t care which way you swing, Samantha, as long as you’re honest.” I will always remember my mum telling me those words in our kitchen when I was about 15. I don’t think we were talking about anything serious at the time but for some reason I held onto that knowledge – that my mum would . . . → Read More: I’m Here. I’m … ? Since Don and I have broken up / taken a break / changed our relationship / WHATEVER the fuck you want to call this state we’re in now, my sex drive has picked up and jumped out the window. It’s not just that situation, though that’s the main contributor. Crush and I haven’t spoken in over a week. I think it’s just because he’s busy but I have a feeling it’s something more. Add Steph being sick, and everything has pretty much fizzled out down below. What all of these life changes have caused me to realize is that – while it’s not the prettiest comparison – my sex drive works like a compost bin. It needs interaction – whether it’s in chat, in person or through touch – to keep it well fed and thriving. Because so much of my drive is fueled by my sexuality and not just my physical bits, if said sexuality is threatened, thirsty or sad … I lose interest in basically bothering. I need that interaction, the flirting, the teasing … dare I say it … the compliments. In case you didn’t already know, yesterday was Lady Porn Day. Created by Rachel Rabbit White, LPD is “a day about exploring porn and masturbation. Because It’s tough trying to explore porn as a girl.” In honor of this day, I told myself to finally sit down and review Tristan Taormino’s: Expert Guide to Female Orgasms that Vivid so kindly sent over to me a while back. I’m not sure why it took me so long to sit down and watch the whole thing from start to finish, but I’m glad I finally did. If you’re not familiar with Tristan, she’s a wonderful combo of sex educator meets feminist pornographer. I’ve had the opportunity to listen to her speak on a few occasions and I greatly admire her respect for porn actors and making her sets comfortable environments, while also speaking directly to the stars and treating them as so much more than bodies.
The very beginning of the movie is focused on education and I recommend anyone that wants to learn more about the female orgasm or how to please a woman in general, take the time and watch it. There are diagrams and Tristan speaks slowly and clearly so that you can understand easily, while throwing in a few snippets of the sexy scenes to come to get you excited. Read more » Sexapalooza is a fun, upscale consumer trade show dedicated to entertaining and educating out attendees on all aspects of sexuality. Expect to watch fantastic stage shows, be prepared to learn new ideas and tips during free seminars given by professionals in the sex industry, and know that you’ll be shopping for great . . . → Read More: Winter Blahs, Ontario? Sexapalooza It Up! Something I have always struggled with is letting go. It is rare that you will find me out of control because I don’t put myself into situations where it can happen. Being a control freak is not something I consider myself. I am plenty happy letting other people plan things or take over as I believe in encouraging everyone’s strengths to come through. My main trouble comes with personally letting go in areas that don’t really affect anyone else, but me. It’s only recently that I’ve put it all together and realized how deep this weird control thing runs in me and here is what I’ve learned. Logical Fantasies I’ve mentioned this one before, but I’ve really thought it through now. Celebrity fantasies are a good example of something that I find impossible to do. It doesn’t matter who the celebrity is, if I’m going to dream about them in my bed I’m going to spend 98% of my daydreaming time figuring out the scenario to get them there. And yes, I can bend logic a little for this, but there’s no way that I could just have Alex O’Loughlin suddenly appear next to me in bed … or is there?? My brain and heart are taking a bit of a beating right now. Some good, some bad and I’m in a funny place trying to piece it all together. It shouldn’t go unsaid that I am probably pms’ing right now so my logic filter – which I pride myself on – isn’t working at full capacity. Emotions are running high in Sam Camp and there’s probably things like winter and gloominess making everything seem that much larger than it really is. Some biggish things have happened in the past week between Crush and I so I think I might as well just start with … Tuesday |
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