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Comment on A recent okCupid email by Lucius Scribbens

Lucius Scribbens — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 17:49:32 +0000

It always amazes me how men will say things on over the Internet that they wouldn’t say to a woman in person if they were trying to pick them up.

Comment on Do YOU want to move the couch? by Sarah

Sarah — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 21:57:12 +0000

Oh dear, CrazyCrazy, stereotype much Don’t paths of least resistance lead to sad, tired relationships? – surely if you solve the problem at the root, you can instead find closeness, harmony…

That’s a really cool bolt from the blue you had there, Samantha.

Comment on Do YOU want to move the couch? by samantha

samantha — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 20:24:59 +0000

Perhaps, but in this case I don’t criticize Steph when he makes decisions. It’s the one thing I’ve been asking for, for years!

Comment on Sample chapter: Coming Out Poly by Tweets that mention Sample chapter: Coming Out Poly «Not Your Mothers Playground -- Topsy.com

Fri, 09 Jul 2010 05:40:57 +0000

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Comment on Do YOU want to move the couch? by CrazyCrazy

CrazyCrazy — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 01:21:39 +0000

Men behave this way after years of being chastised and criticized by woman over every little ‘decision’ they make. Eventually they stop making decisions of their own, because they know everything has to flow through their wife. It is another one of those paths of least resistance I like to talk about.

Of course men want to be men. If they don’t behave that way, there is usually a reason. Think about this ladies

Comment on Every Cowboy Sings a Sad Sad Song (Or lessons learned from group sex, while out of the room. And town) by Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 22:38:58 +0000

Nice post!

Oh the familiarity… Only just found your blog so apologies for late commenting But yeah, been there, done that. I think one thing that has helped me and my SO in similar situations is being able to clarify the difference between jealousy and exclusion – that lack of direct communication upon you entering that situation sets up a ‘we know something you don’t know’ dynamic which puts you on a back foot and therefore not a great place from which to react to significant news, and as you say it becomes a two layer thing of ‘it’s not what you did but how you told me about it’. But taking the problem away from jealousy and the sex act and focusing it more clearly on the moment of reconnecting after an event has helped us remember to be more gentle with each other.

Comment on Relationships are HARD, yo! by Beck

Beck — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 06:04:32 +0000

Excellent post Samantha & thanks so much for visiting our little ‘NOn-monog tribe. We didn’t interact but I talked to those who met you and am glad to be among your readers now.
I’m involved with two lovers right now and both are going through some monumental life altering experiences simultaneously. With both their individual worlds falling apart around them I decided to allow communication especially of the negative things to be one way from each of them to me.
While seemingly necessary(?) at first, it is starting to be acknowledged by all as a big mistake. I feel it compounded feelings of isolation and has led to less communication from them to me and certainly less loving emotional stability on my end as well.
Am interested to know if you have had any experiences like this.

Comment on Your Help Needed! by Kelley Clark

Kelley Clark — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 09:46:17 +0000

This book is important now more than ever. Polyamory and other non-traditional relationships are gaining momentum. As our culture changes and evolves, some of the social barriers that restricted us are breaking down. People are more free to explore love for the sake of love, and the face of what that love looks like is similarly evolving. I look forward to reading Samantha’s book!

Comment on Sometimes People Need Pwning by SFCuties

SFCuties — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 00:24:57 +0000

Great work. Unfortunately, I have found that these discussions rarely lead to anything positive. These people are not point to the laws of logic. Its easy to argue when you don’t have to make sense.

I usually reply with one of these:
“Then Judah said to Onan,“Go in to your brother’s wife, and perform your duty as a brother-in-law to her, and raise up offspring for your brother.” Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so when he went in to his brother’s wife, he wasted his seed on the ground in order not to give offspring to his brother. But what he did was displeasing in the sight of the LORD; so He took his life also.”

1 Samuel 18:25-27 ESV

“Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.” (I Corinthians 14:34-35)

“Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.” (I Timothy 2:11-14)

“Behold, here is my daughter a maiden, and his concubine; them I will bring out now, and humble ye them, and do with them what seemeth good unto you: but unto this man do not so vile a thing. But the men would not hearken to him: so the man took his concubine, and brought her forth unto them; and they knew her, and abused her all the night until the morning: and when the day began to spring, they let her go.” (Judges 19:24-25)

Comment on Your Help Needed! by Endicott

Endicott — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 00:07:38 +0000

I would find it particularly interesting and unique if there was a section devoted to child rearing in a poly environment