I was never one to . . . → Read More: More than one "one"]]> Ah, true love. It can be such a guiding force in our lives, sometimes destructive and sometimes grand. We can spend so much time on our quest for “the one”, that we can overlook many wonderful people that don’t fit some silly profile that we’ve invented in our heads as being perfect.

I was never one to believe in true love. Growing up you see so many people in your family circle getting divorced that the concept seemed quite alien to me. Why should there only be one person for everyone? What if one person dies? Is their partner destined to spend the rest of their life alone? Does that mean that anybody you date after another dies or moves on is any less right for you? It all seems a bit silly if you ask me.

Of course, there’s no arguing with chemistry. Sometimes two people are attracted to each other so intensely that it can fool them into thinking it’s love at first sight. Does love at first sight exist? Who’s to say. The romantic girl in me likes to think so, but the wiser woman in me dismisses it as strictly chemistry. And as I have learned, it’s possible to have intense levels of chemistry with more than one person. A very fun on-going discovery, I might add.

We all live with our own personal flaws, and tolerate the personal flaws of the people we know. If it weren’t for these flaws, we wouldn’t be human. Accepting that our partner’s have issues, but so do other people that we could be with is a very freeing realization and can help to solidify any relationship. I know personally, there are plenty of people I could have formed a life with. Perhaps someone else wouldn’t do some things my husband does that drive me a little batty, but in time I would see that they would do something else.

Customizing your own personal fidelity can be an amazing experience. Realizing that there are things you can learn from many people takes the burden off of just one. Expecting ourselves to fulfill every need our partners have, is unreasonable and unfair to each other.

Realizing that you have made a choice to commit to each other, that it didn’t just happen thanks to fate or random cards, is more about “true love” than any fairy tale I have ever read.