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Please enjoy these random two groups of photos fro Please enjoy these random two groups of photos from 21 years with this guy.
Today has been crap but it’s also mine and @step Today has been crap but it’s also mine and @stephgoulet’s TWENTY FIRST first date-a-versary, which makes it still a great day! We’ve literally been together for half of my life and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Thanks for being you and for loving me. I am proud of who we are, what we’ve built, and how we exist in the world together. #marriage #loveandmarriage #relationshipgoals #togetherforever #polyamory #nonmonogamy #polyam #polyam #myhusband #husband #longtermrelationship #toronto #torontocouple
Today’s entire aura. #borg #borgqueen #resistan Today’s entire aura. #borg #borgqueen #resistance #resistanceisfutile #existence #mood #startrek #startrektng #startrekmemes #picard #ugh #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #deepspacenine
Anyway. Face. Anyway. Face.
I follow a bunch of popular polyamory advocates & I follow a bunch of popular polyamory advocates & content creators. One thing I’m starting to notice lately is how much of their content is about, not specifically shaming monogamy, but shaming ignorant people who ask (ignorant) questions. I get it. Easy targets. I just don’t remember doing that myself. Maybe I’m remembering my time in the spotlight differently, but I think I focused on my non-monogamous life as a reflection tool for people, without feeling the need to punch down others. People will always ask dumb questions but do we need to be elitist snobs about it? Nope. It feels pretty gross, in my opinion. We can educate with our actions and our authenticity. We don’t have to be so self-righteous. Signed, a formally relevant polyam elder / advocate / zzz list celebrity. PS: I don’t recall spending energy on blasting jerks publicly. Perhaps because I truly cared more about helping and educating people vs advocates now who get sucked into content creation and do it ALSO for the likes. #polyamory #nonmonogamy #polyam #poly #polyadvocate #polyamadvocate #enm #ethicalnonmonogamy #notyourmothersplayground #nympsam
More to come, but tonight we bullied a bully and w More to come, but tonight we bullied a bully and won! Turns out the 5th home’s the charm!
Every 6 months or so I’ll make a real proper to- Every 6 months or so I’ll make a real proper to-do list of all my shit, not just a scribble of my next few hours. I’ll look at said list and tell myself that I’m “really onto something with this new format!”. But yes, let’s take months to determine if I have ADHD. Makes sense. #adhd #adhdmemes #adhdmeme #todo #todolist #planner #list #eventplanner #events #calrndar #neurotypical #neurodivergent #adhdwomen #adhdwoman #adhdadult #adultadhd #mentalhealth #mental #stigma #highfunctioning #letstalk #bellletstalk #
@samfraserrealty Friends, I want to tell you a lit @samfraserrealty Friends, I want to tell you a little something. I always knew that when I got into real estate I’d be a little different from everyone else. And that my clients would be a little different too. I’m not a suit. I’m covered in tattoos. I could wear leopard print every day. I still do rentals. I’m proudly queer & polyamorous, living with six cats and two husbands. Before real estate I spent 20 ish years of my career in events, marketing, digital media, video games, and sexuality. I’ve been lucky to know so many people in a wide variety of communities. This gets to the point of my post, community. They say when you get into the biz you should focus on your “sphere of influence” to build out your client list. I feel connected to SO many people from so many backgrounds, how would I know how to choose where to focus? Turns out, I didn’t have to. They’ve chosen me. I’ve been lucky to have a wide variety of clients, and a very large number of them have come from the kinky, queer, sex positive, and / or non-monogamy communities. As a member of all those groups, I think it’s about time that I loudly show my appreciation for the support and trust they’ve given me. When trying to figure out my brand, I asked myself, “Am I going to be the tattooed Realtor? The leopard print agent?”. I knew I’d be a bit different but I didn’t know how much “ME” I would show. Well, I’m the Realtor who helps all types of people, including those hoping to find their new home with space for multiple partners. I help clients find the new waterfront property for their sex education retreats. Many clients over the years have been to my conference on sex/uality (and now wellness too), @playgroundconf. Almost all of them make jokes about sex dungeons, and at least half of them are serious! My brand has, and always will be, 100% Samantha. And my clients have shown me how much they value that. I’m so grateful to be doing this job. But even more grateful to be able to be my whole self while doing it. Thanks, friends. It’s a great honour to be the “sex-positive / kink / polyam / pansexual / tattooed Realtor” that you keep telling your friends about. 🥰
Fellow sensitive bodied friends in the GTA, the pa Fellow sensitive bodied friends in the GTA, the pain is getting WAY worse today and tomorrow. Please take care of yourselves; it’s going to super duper suck.
I hate my pains & illnesses but am also grateful f I hate my pains & illnesses but am also grateful for them. They’ve taught me a new power; one where I know my body better than anything I’ve ever known. I’ve spent years of my life not being present in my body & I am nothing BUT present in it now, for better or worse. I’m not happy with things out of my control & a few things that, in theory, should be in my control, but unhappiness doesn’t rule everything around me. There’s too much to enjoy, even in these troubled times. No one knows my body better than I do. The infinite combinations of head & body pain & how they’re all unique. Partners know my body in ways, but nothing like I can. Then there’s my osteopath, Lauren. At yesterday’s session with her, we were chatting about bodies, nervous systems, & everything that goes into making us all so complicated. Without prompting she casually commented on how my body has changed since my mental shift. (For anyone new, I realized in the fall that my illnesses aren’t my identity, just things I deal with. I also started “dating” again after years away.) With our weekly sessions, Lauren knows my body on a super acute level. She knows where my veins belong, where fascia gets twisted. When a ligament is blocking blood flow. What happens to my muscles when the weather comes in. She noted a difference not only externally, (things like my posture, my voice (?), and my stride), but also internally. My body has shifted. Settled. Moved to a place of more healing. I still hurt often. Right now it’s excruciating. And I still get sad about it. I’m bummed right now. I still can’t do all the things I want to do. And if you’d told me before September that an unexpected “mental shift” would help me feel better, I’d have rolled my eyes as hard as I would if you’d said “Have you tried weed?” And yet, apparently I’ve changed. My body is more … mine again. To have her offer that validation so casually, what an absolute gift it is. My innards might not always be where they’re supposed to, but they’re farther from harm than they used to be and that’s something. Healing isn’t linear but forward motion is forward motion. Osteo has honestly changed my life. 📸 @mskatesinclaire
Soooooo, @mskatesinclaire has sent me the rest of Soooooo, @mskatesinclaire has sent me the rest of our photos from our little mini vacay together. Apologies in advance for the content coming your way soon!
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